Ant says..."You seem to be a pretty casual gal - your wedding sounds like it isn't following any traditional format or English etiquette - so I would say do whatever you fancy. Perhaps you could retain some of the formality though - from experience, some guests may feel sad that they missed your wedding and the idea of a party on your return is to give the non - attendees an opportunity to join in your wonderful celebration. I think Celebrity planners Anthony Miller and Richard Jones solve your wedding worries. For more, see weddingsbyanthonyandrichard.co.uk it would be nice to have a table plan and some sort of favours. It would also be a lovely gesture to allow some of these guests to give a speech or a reading, since they didn't get to do it on the day."

Ant says..."Try a Ferrari or a pad in New York - I'm sure he will love it! No? Oh OK, have a look at menkind.co.uk for some inspiration. Please do not forget that men are sentimental, too, so a love poem or a story that tells him how much you love him will always be a great gift."

Richard says..."With any invitation, don't feel you have to follow any of the old-fashioned rules, unless you think your parents would like that. A simple idea would be: Please join the Jones family, for a surprise celebration and renewal of vows, for xxx on xxx at xxx. Pop in a little flyer that reminds everyone that it is a surprise for your parents and to keep quiet about it. If your parents are renewing their vows on a special anniversary, pick the anniversary metal or stone as a colour scheme. "

Richard says..."Do you need them to wear a specific suit or could they all come in a black suit that they already have? You could then perhaps buy them the shirt and tie (so you have your theme incorporated), and they get to keep that as a thank you gift for being a groomsman. In Cyprus, I imagine you won't be putting your groomsmen in heavy and hot morning wear? Perhaps just ask them to buy light-coloured trousers and wear a white shirt - I'm sure they would all have one. "