Anthony says: "Honey, yes you should, although let me warn you: inviting mother-in-law along will bring with it an onslaught of 'opinions' and 'helpful' advice, so make sure you practise your 'I'm listening' face. However, do not allow her to take over – you're big and strong enough to take on the challenge of marriage, so mum-in-law-to-be should be little buns in comparison!"

Anthony says: "Quite simply say: 'STOP MUM!' Sorry if that sounds harsh, but it's your day! I hear this question time and time again and I've got to say it is your responsibility to step up to the mark and be in control of these things. I often suggest that mothers or others who are getting carried away with the guest list should donate £500 per guest towards the honeymoon fund. Nobody has implemented it yet, but hey, what a great money-spinner that would be!"

Richard says: "Oh, make him wear the kilt sweetie! There's nothing more lovely to look at than a handsome man in traditional Scottish wear! But if he really is against wearing a kilt then there are lots of alternatives, such as tartan trousers or tartan accessories. Moss Bros do a great hire service, or if he wants to buy a suit that he can wear time and time again then tell him to check out the fashion ranges at Marc Wallace."

Richard says: "Of course it is, just make sure your back-up guests don't know that they are. Send invitations and save the date cards really early, making sure that any overseas friends and family get theirs first, giving them chance to let you know very early if they can't make it. This will free up some places. If you have very last-minute drop-outs, let your second-best friends feel special by saying that a very old great aunt has finally let you know she can't make it, so you are delighted that you can now extend the planned invitation to them and apologise for the last-minute invite. They will know what's going on and will understand."